By developing boundaries, you introduce your child to the reality of what happens in the world or everyday life, which has lots of rules. And developing a healthy attitude of respect for what Mom and Dad are saying will make it easier for you to stress important boundaries later in life.
Applying the Rules
The best way to lay the groundwork for discipline is to keep all the rules in the house simple and clear. For example, “No hitting,” or, “No climbing on the table.”
Handling Bad Behavior
Decide if a reaction you are doing is necessary. If you’re tough on everything, from a child whining at bedtime to biting someone else, you’re only going to piss everyone off. And, your efforts to apply discipline will be far from effective, if you focus on the things that are your problem.
If your child makes a mistake, such as hitting a friend, immediately say firmly, “No hitting.” If your child is older, you can also ask him to apologize. Even so, limit the use of the word “no” to justify bad behavior. Because, otherwise, the child will ignore you. If he’s doing something you don’t like that isn’t really that dangerous or hurt anyone (e.g., scribbling on his hand with a marker), just say, “If you want to draw, just draw it on paper, okay?”
Look for the consequences that affect the child. This could be taking or withholding one special thing he has, or asking him to do something he doesn’t like. Children ages 2 and up can be alarmed by a warning, such as, “If you keep throwing sand around, you can’t play in that litter box.” You have to be serious about the consequences you have said. Children will not take you seriously if you are not serious yourself.
Children love to test you, and without consistency, rules are very easy to break. If you stick to the rules that have been made, eventually your child will realize that his behavior that you don’t like has consequences that he doesn’t like.
know how upset you are. Mama also wanted to be able to play in the park all day, but…” Knowing that you understand him, will make the child calmer.
Make a Deal
If your child doesn’t want to go to sleep either, ask him if the light in the hallway in front of his room stays on. To him, it’s kind of a compromise, but you don’t look backward and are a slacker. Another example, instead of offering him a bribe, such as giving him candy, if he stops crying, reward him for his good behavior. For example, if he stays by your side while shopping at the supermarket, you promise to stop at a park on the way home.
Offer Other Options.
When your child breaks a rule, show as many acceptable alternative behaviors as possible. So when you say, “Don’t waste Mama’s purse, please!” follow with the advice, “Come on, just throw away these wooden toys.
The strongest form of discipline is to praise good behavior, and this applies to all ages. The more frequently praised, the stronger the child’s desire to behave well.